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  1. dddania
    September 16, 2009 at 5:46 pm

    Since no one is asking, let me pose the first question:
    Why do I have so many visitors to this website, and very few choose to comment? Do you all have all the answers?
    Com’on….. help me out here. I would love to make this section more dynamic….

    You answer…

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  2. mona
    September 23, 2009 at 11:11 pm

    hey Dania, your a very ambitions person, and i personally look up for you, and the thing that i appreciate the most in your biography is your great sacrifice to your family, they are truly lucky having you.
    Well personally I would like to ask a question concerning music. i would like to ask people how do they choose the kind of music they listen to? Whether they realize the effect of music on their personality, their health, their mood, and their life? Or if they have ever considered that a wrong choice of music might be dangerous and a good one could enhance their life style? Last question, from psychology point of view what are the effects of music on human’s life in general?

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  3. dddania
    September 24, 2009 at 8:23 pm

    Monaaaaaaaa 🙂 🙂 Thanks for your kind words. I really appreciate your dropping by.
    Interesting questions you have there and a broad topic indeed. I’ll try to be brief in my reply 🙂

    I believe people get hooked to specific types of music by mere exposure. You can’t possibly become passionate about Jazz if you did not have a taste of what it sounds like on several occasions first, for example. Sometimes, you get to prefer listening to one kind because others (around you) bombard you with that choice most of the time (of course, if you don’t like that kind to start with, you’d develope a complete repulsion). So in a nut shell, after exposure, comes preferences to any one kind of music; and then comes passion to specific types.

    We can have more than one preference. Our mood directs our choice of the type of music we’d want to listen to. It’s a vice versa relationship (whereby music can affect your mood as well). Im Kulthoum depresses me (sorry for those passionate about her, but I feel so much pain in her voice. I can’t listen to her when I’m high, I’d lose the pleasure 🙂 ).

    As to the effects of music on personality, I believe your preference defines your personality & does not necessarily affect it. On the other hand, the effects of relaxing music on health are well documented. All relaxation techniques encourage people to listen to calm music. Loud rapid music (e.g. heavy metal style) can be relaxing to quite a portion of the population (mainly the youth), so the choice (of what is more relaxing) is rather idiosyncratic.

    I also believe listening to music is vital for good health. I think the dangerous types you refer to are those loaded with subliminal messages, or the kind of music that is played on a really high volume. Otherwise, music nourishes the soul. Listen to the sound of music as much as you can. At least, it’s one of those friends whom you can lower their volumes without hurting their feelings 🙂

    Thanks again MOna for being the first to make this page more LIVELY.

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  4. mona
    September 25, 2009 at 9:13 pm

    Thank you Dania, your answer will surely help me with my article.
    well i have another question i was discussing with my friend today.
    My friend is a very special, successful and smart person, and she always seeks perfection in her life, she believes that intelligence and success are acquired not inherited, and every time she meets someone who is achieving more than she is with less efforts she wonders what makes him more special then she is. I was searching for same explanation so i was wondering what are the set of rules for best achievement if there was any.
    Hope i’m not asking too much and thanks again for your concern and your help 🙂

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  5. dddania
    September 26, 2009 at 8:26 pm

    Hi again Mona,

    From what I know, intelligence is mostly inherited (if you remember from PSYC 202). We can surely enhance or thwart how we shine if we expose ourselves to the proper environment (you probably remember the positive effects of enriched environments on chidren’s IQs). Success is rather MADE. Unless your one of the politicians in Lebanon & you inherited the leadership positions one after another, you really have to work hard to be there 🙂

    Your friend might think others don’t make the effort; yet, still succeed. Each utilizes different strategies to achieve. From what I know, a clear vision of your goals helps a lot & sometimes makes all the difference especially when one sets specific strategies to be there. 97% of those who achieve their goals actually write these down. There’s a lot of power in doing that. Writing the steps to achieve these goals is also a great tool. It keeps one focused. Passion towards these goals can also be a major driving force. I also believe that those who do succeed have good expectations about their success and positive beliefs about their ability. They imagine succeeding even before they do. Visualization and positive self talk are also major tools. These are few things that come to mind now.

    I like your questions Mona, keep them flowing 🙂

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  6. Rain
    September 30, 2009 at 7:08 pm

    I am on the door to enter university, and my choice of major was based on what i love but as well capable of, which was graphic design, i did give up the idea about doing psychology in university, but never the idea about learning psychology which i long to do.
    my parents, out of concern, hated the idea, they wanted me to work in the government field, military or something like that, and i can understand their concern.
    the question is, what would you choose, something that offer you more opportunities and money, or something you love to do?

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    • dddania
      September 30, 2009 at 7:39 pm

      It’s like my history is repeating itself in you Reine 🙂 🙂

      my parents discouaged me a long time ago from studying psychology. They also opted for a more bread-earning occupation. I complied then (being the pleasing person I was). My second best was to study business administration & I did it. My passion remained psychology &, like you. I was always trying to self-educate. It’s totally different when you work in the field though. I became passionate about what I did 20 years ago, but I must admit that I am more passionate about what I am doing NOW! (no regrets about that business degree; it molded me to the person I became).

      I can’t advise you to follow your passion Reine. It’s a decision you’ll have to make. But, personally, I was more motivated to learn as I earned my education in psychology. I excelled more. Now I find I am very fulfilled . What’s your driving force Reine? How do you like to see yourself 10 years from now? Even if you had a career in graphic design, do you think it would be fulfilling enough for you? Can you MAKE it the perfect life for you?

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  7. Rain
    September 30, 2009 at 7:56 pm

    well i was impressed when i read ur blog at first, and i directly told my friend about it, because this is what me and my friend saw ourselves doing years from now, helping others, lighting others way, pushing others to give their best…
    since i was a kid, the only reason i lived for, was to give, give from myself to others, that is why i am seeking knowledge… and i am grateful i have a big passion to art, which help me express myself and touch others as well 🙂
    i know my choice could not be the best, but i told my parents i rather work my ass off and live poor doing something which feels right, then to get rich and feel empty.
    though i am risking too much, not only my life but their lives as well, because i will be the one to take care of my parents years later… i can’t as well be selfish and not sacrifice as my parents scarified all their lives to teach me, i can’t see myself happy as well doing something i love, but not being able to take care of my own parents, the guilt and the regrets will follow me.
    that is why it is an annoying choice, but i stick to graphic design, because i see potential, and i am capable ^^
    only time will tell if it was the right choice
    thank u for ur time

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    • dddania
      September 30, 2009 at 8:03 pm

      What can I say? Your words are full of maturity & wisdom. Just trust what life will bring you Reine. Being the giving person you are, I can foretell you’ll be receiving so much more in return.

      Who knows, maybe you can twist the graphic design field into the helping profession some how in the future 🙂 you already believe in yourself & your capabilities & that’s a great asset 🙂 Yes, you’ll make time tell 🙂

      Any time sugar!
      All the best my new friend 🙂

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  8. Rain
    December 21, 2009 at 6:07 pm

    i know this guy who i met 7 years ago when i was in a special need school, he was my classmate, when i left the school, he followed me to the other school because i was the only friend he had. the question, this guy has some mental or emotional problems, and they are serious, he has panic attacks,he is so suicidal, he is so violent, there are many times when he tried to harm me, and his mother as well, he is a serious danger on himself and on others, his mother send him to a shrink he was doing amazing with the treatment but she no longer can afford his treatment…
    what to do in such case? talk to people they tried… now they are ignoring him dealing with him as they deal with everyone else, and i see him going worse each day, he is a danger on society and on himself, he should be treated and he needs a professional to treat him no matter how hard i can try to help him i am not good enough for it.
    do u know any center that provides such help?

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    • dddania
      December 21, 2009 at 6:17 pm

      Good God Reine….this must place a heavy toll on you & you’re right: he is too much for you to handle & does require professional help. I, also, understand the parental frustration, but he can’t be left without treatment (especially if he’s a danger on himself & others). Can you suggest to his family to take an appointment at the American University Hospital in the “Out patient Department”. Consultation there is realtively cheap (10,000 LL) specifically for those people who cannot afford it. Ask for an appointment with Dr Maalouf. He’s a psyciatrist & will refer him later to psychotherapy (but perhaps your friend requires some medication to start with).
      Please let me know what happens. The guy obviously needs help.
      Try your best to convince them, OK?

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      • Rain
        December 23, 2009 at 6:23 pm

        Thank you… it means alot, i will keep you in touch =D

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  9. May 5, 2010 at 12:42 am

    Dania,

    I loved your website. Excellent!!!

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    • dddania
      May 5, 2010 at 3:09 am

      Thanks Iris 🙂 I feel the same way about your website 🙂 very rich 🙂

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  10. May 5, 2010 at 3:27 am

    I appreciate your comment as well. I look forward to sitting down and reading some more when I have some time soon.

    I hope all is well.

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  11. Eva
    May 6, 2010 at 9:25 pm

    Hi Dania, I was googling the lebanese blogers network since i’m thinking of creating my own blog. I’m very happy that i have found your blog.
    I need a practical tip if possible. I’m a wife, a Mom of 2, the youngest being 2 years and a half, and of course i work.
    I love my job, my husband and my kids and i have a tendancy to forget to love myself. I have neglected myself for the past 10 years, i’ve put on weight, i’m not exercising, i started smoking again after since 2006 after quitting for 8 years, and i can’t find quality time for and with myself. I just don’t know how to say no to others. I need to find time to excercise and read, go trekking etc… and do all the things i love doing, moderatly off course since the day only has 24 hours, without feeling guilty of neglecting my kids or family!
    Any tips 🙂

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    • dddania
      May 7, 2010 at 5:47 am

      Dear Eva,

      Thanks for dropping by and leaving this query 🙂
      It is very understandable that you have this tendency to be overwhelmed and lose sight of taking care of yourself especially at a stage when your kids are young and knowing you are a working mom.
      It looks like you realize the importance of taking some steps to impliment some changes to your life style. Apparently, you want to handle improving more than one area (smoking, weight gain, time for yourself,…..). These can be too much for you to handle in one go 🙂

      Why don’t you list down what you want to work on. Then select the area you are most ready to handle (prioritize and check your readiness). Be clear on how you want to make the changes and brain storm the structure to facilitate the process (for instance, you want to exercise, schedule when it is best to do that, buy new sports clothing to make the habit more appealing, become a member in a gym, etc…).

      It is better to handle one area at a time. Having someone encourage you to do that can be an asset. Tell your spouse, a friend, or anyone close that you need help in making things happen. When you talk about your plans, it serves getting you committed to implement changes (this is why coaches are usually hired 🙂 )

      Above all, start out by loving yourself. When you don’t, it’s very unlikely that others will. So try to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of others. I have written some articles tackling this specific issue (like “Taking some time to refuel”, and “I am my own priority”,….). Please check these out. They can be an eye-opener.

      Lastly, I want to acknowledge your clarity and your will to overcome these concerns. This realization is the first step towards positive change 🙂 The next step is to start taking action and remain committed. So hang in there Eva 🙂 You’re on the right track 🙂

      Hope this helps 🙂 and please don’t hesitate to write back if you have other concerns 🙂

      Bests on initiating your own blog 🙂

      Dania

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  12. Nader
    September 29, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    Hey Diana!
    Very inspiring blog you’ve got there! My question is: Where are you located? Currently in Lebanon? If so, do you have a center or a clinic where you accept clients?
    Also, being the president of the “Lebanese Coaching Association”, do you give certifications for people willing to become life coachers in Lebanon? In other words, for an individual in Lebanon to become a life coacher, what should he or she do???

    Thanks!

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    • dddania
      September 29, 2010 at 5:39 pm

      Hi Nader,
      Thanks for inquiring 🙂 Yes, I am located in Lebanon and currently do not have an office. Coaching is mainly conducted over the phone with occasional meetings outdoors (e.g. coffee shops 🙂 ). I am working on sharing an office (in a poly clinic), but for now have clients in therapy at AUH and teach at AUB (hence the need to share an office).

      As for a coaching certification, the Lebanese Coach Association is for certified coaches. We don’t have a school for coaching in Lebanon yet. I did mine through correspondence (I attended classes over skype) with the International Coach Acadamy. Check it out on Google and if you need any further info, please don’t hesitate to ask again 🙂 Once you join a coaching school, you can hop on board our LCA community 🙂

      Hope that helps Nader 🙂

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      • S
        April 19, 2012 at 4:59 pm

        HI Dania,
        I came across your website by chance. I am surprised to see that there are good therapists at AUH. I have had a very bad experience with a psychotherapist at AUH and it took me some time to understand what was happening. It was all a sort of manipulation as I realized that the psychotherapist needed and still needs therapy.
        I think it’s very dangerous to go into therapy in Lebanon because some therapists might be materialistic and might be themselves in need for therapy as they are not well-balanced or they might be after your money. The more clients they can keep, the more money they can get. I wonder how a therapist would keep a patient coming over for about 10 years. Do you think that this is therapy? How would a therapist shout at a client? I also realized by chance that this same therapist was accused of the death of a client, but for some “wasta” reasons, I would say, the therapist is still working as if nothing happened.
        I don’t know if you like what I’m writing, but I think and I feel it is my duty and everybody’s duty to make people more aware of things like this. I don’t think that this happened only to me. I think it’s happening all the time. I don’t think it is appropriate to mention the name on your blog, but maybe we can start a discussion here if you don’t mind. I would also like your opinion on that.
        Best regards.

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        • dddania
          April 20, 2012 at 6:35 am

          Dear “S”,
          I truly am saddened to hear about this. I agree that 10 years is a looong time to undergo the process & that the financial investment must have been draining. At the same time, it all depends on the kind of problems being dealt with & the progress (if any) through out. I wonder why would someone stay committed to the same therapist when there’s little or no benefit?

          I, also, agree that it is very inappropriate to shout at a client! A therapist needs to be the support system at all times, but then again, people come in different packages all the time. You’re prone to find the good & the bad everywhere; the well mannered & the disrespectful; the professional & the mediocre. This applies to all people & in all professions. We really have to be lucky to fall in the right hands or differentiate when that happens & learn from it.

          I’m sorry that this bad experience had left such a negative attitude towards all therapists. We’re human and do tend to generalize – that’s understandable. But I see & hear maaany success stories about lives positively changed after therapy. I wished you’d maintain some trust in that there are good well balanced professionals out there…… plenty of them 🙂

          Dear “S”, I am no longer working at AUH, rather have my own practice in Hamra. If you’d like, I can meet with you & discuss your concern instead of this discussion board. Just give me a call (03 686958) & we’ll arrange a time that suites us both 🙂

          All the best “S” 🙂

          Dania

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          • S
            May 1, 2012 at 2:26 pm

            I’m sorry to reply late. I would like to thank you, and I’ll see what I can do. The problem is that I have a long story and there is so much anger and sadness inside me.
            By the way, there is a conference titled Psychotherapy, Profession and Ethics on May 12 at Unesco Palace. I wanted to see the program but I can’t manage to find it online. Do you have any idea about it?
            Can I please know whether you’re a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist?

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            • dddania
              May 2, 2012 at 6:11 am

              Hi again “S” 🙂
              I’m sorry to hear about your anger & sadness. it’s been said that “Time heals” & many times we need to be really active in speeding up the process. I’m sure you’ll find your way out of your distress very soon. Just have faith in that you can & get focused on becoming happy instead. It really helps to have an attitude of gratitude. start digging for the many blessings you have in your life. I’m sure you’ll find plenty of these 🙂 🙂

              As for the conference you mention, I am not aware something like this is taking place at the Unesco 😦 I know of another similar event which I’ll copy the details for below from the Lebanese Psychological Association facebook page:

              “o Friday, May 18, 2012
              o 7:00pm until 9:00pm

              USJ Campus des Sciences Humaines

              LPA is proud to announce its next activity/event which will take place on Friday May 18th @ 7pm (duration approximated to 2 hours).

              This is an event organized by the LPA (Lebanese Psychological Association).

              All mental health professionals are welcome, even non-LPA members (Psychologists from all fields, Psychiatrists, Psychology students, Psychiatry Residents…).

              Please feel free to invite your colleagues and friends as long as they have a function in the mental health profession.

              Today most TV shows and other media facilities include psychologists or other mental health professionals (psychiatrists, social workers …). This activity aims at discussing the ethical boundaries that mental health professionals ought to respect in media settings.

              There will be media coverage of this event.”

              Hope that helps 🙂

              Oh, and I am not as psychiatrist (I don’t prescribe medication). I am a psychotherapist (though prefer to use the term counselor, as the word “therapy” may be somewhat disempowering enough for those who may just need to “fine tune” their emotions 😉 🙂

              Take care “S”

              Dania

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            • dddania
              May 2, 2012 at 6:14 am

              Hi again “S” 🙂
              I’m sorry to hear about your anger & sadness. it’s been said that “Time heals” & many times we need to be really active in speeding up the process. I’m sure you’ll find your way out of your distress very soon. Just have faith in that you can & get focused on becoming happy instead. It really helps to have an attitude of gratitude. start digging for the many blessings you have in your life. I’m sure you’ll find plenty of these 🙂 🙂

              As for the conference you mention, I am not aware something like this is taking place at the Unesco 😦 I know of another similar event which I’ll copy the details for below from the Lebanese Psychological Association facebook page:

              “- Friday, May 18, 2012
              – 7:00pm until 9:00pm
              – USJ Campus des Sciences Humaines

              LPA is proud to announce its next activity/event which will take place on Friday May 18th @ 7pm (duration approximated to 2 hours).

              This is an event organized by the LPA (Lebanese Psychological Association).

              All mental health professionals are welcome, even non-LPA members (Psychologists from all fields, Psychiatrists, Psychology students, Psychiatry Residents…).

              Please feel free to invite your colleagues and friends as long as they have a function in the mental health profession.

              Today most TV shows and other media facilities include psychologists or other mental health professionals (psychiatrists, social workers …). This activity aims at discussing the ethical boundaries that mental health professionals ought to respect in media settings.

              There will be media coverage of this event.”

              Hope that helps 🙂

              Oh, and I am not as psychiatrist (I don’t prescribe medication). I am a psychotherapist (though prefer to use the term counselor, as the word “therapy” may be somewhat disempowering enough for those who may just need to “fine tune” their emotions 😉 🙂

              Take care “S”

              Dania

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  13. Afraid
    November 18, 2010 at 8:35 am

    Dear DDD 🙂
    Hope you are fine and would like to congratulate you on this very nice and helpful blog (which is also needed in Lebanon)
    I am writing to you and I hope that you could help me:
    I am a social worker and people says I am very professional in my job. I don’t know what is happening to me. I work on projects usually and i finished the last one. 4-5 months ago I apply to jobs they call me for interviews I don’t go or even more I go and I leave before that they interviewed me just because I waited a fair amount of time and they didn’t apologize from me.
    I applied to many workshops and conferences and they accepted me (eventhough they accept a few number of people) I go to the place of the workshop and before it starts I leave and don’t attend. ( I am not talking about 1 or two… but 6 or 7)
    I take decision and after it is like i woke up. With people I don’t negotitae anymore, it is or black or white even with closest friends and I lost many of them.
    I am tired, I feel like i am a failure. i am really afraid from what will happen to me. I will start a new job soon but deep inside i don’t want to go.
    could you please help

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    • dddania
      November 18, 2010 at 9:25 am

      Hi (Nathaly)?

      Thanks for your sweet words 🙂
      Your question is a bit tough to answer here-in. More information may be needed to analyze the situation, but I’ll throw on some arguments that could help you dig further & maybe reflect on. just give free reign to your thoughts around these and who knows? maybe you come to a better understanding of what is going on.

      – Leaving before you are interviewed: I understand that the waiting “endlessly” to be interviewed is so disrespectful for those waiting. And I agree that it is frustraiting and that some people need to be tought that our time is precious (this happens all the time at Doctor’s clinics, right? Unfortunately, if we want something badly, we find ourselves having to wait especially if no alternative is available (you can easily shift to another Doctor if you knew another one as good). So, is it that your impatient because you know you can find a good substitute and you don’t have to tolerate the waiting? or is it the whole idea of getting employed again that you dislike & consequently have a ready excuse to avoid this sort of committment??

      – Leavin other workshops/conferences even before they start: Are you sure you’re in the right line of work for you? are you really interested in attending those workshops, or are these time-fillers? I wonder about what could you be thinking at the time you leave (you don’t say – and this could help in clarifying why you avoid this type of committment)

      – Black or white thinking with people: Now that could really backfire on your perspective on life in general. We all wish things could be either black or white, but they are not. Life is full of gray areas and we have to accept it as such. There are no ready answers as such for most of the things we engage in. People have a good side and a bad one; so does the work domain and any other activity you engage in. we need to look at and assess the whole “package” of evrything. When we expect too much, or expect things to be our own way always, this is when we get disappointed. We can come close to what we truly need, but let’s not expect to have everything tailored to our needs all the time. Just accept things as they are Nathaly. You may not have the ability to change other people; or things around you. The only thing you can have control of and change is “you” and the way you see things or react to things around you.

      – Feeling like a failure: how helpful do you think that attitude is?? I admire the fact that you are engaging in self-assessment. That’s a great sign of maturity and this is how we grow. but being harsh on yourself as such really limits what you can do to move forward. We are learning all the time, and whatever happens only happens to teach you something. Just think of the times you really achieved… times when you were a total success…. and you’d feel more empowered to venture in new things and with a better attitude.

      – The new job: why don’t you want to go? explore the reasons. could it be that you still want something different/better? the committment issue? the fear of failing? something else going on in your life worthy of your attention?….. I don’t know. You would be the better judge….

      But whatever it is, at least you noticing your patterns dear and that is by far a giant leap forward. Just trust yourself (and your gut feelings for that matter). Things will definitely clarify with time.

      I hope that helps a bit precious 🙂 🙂

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  14. nat
    November 18, 2010 at 4:25 pm

    Thank you for your words it helps me a lot but if someone would like to do a psychotherapy – or counselling? where to go in Lebanon.
    How to know a good psychotherapist in Lebanon.
    thank you for your help

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    • dddania
      November 18, 2010 at 4:38 pm

      Hi again Nat,
      There are many psycotherapists that I know on personal basis. I am not aware of a website that directs you to a good psychotherapist (unless you Google, but you still need to know if that person is recommended). I know that a data base of psychotherapists in Lebanon is being built by the Lebanese Psychological Association, but it is still not out to the public yet. It would be a good idea to choose one in your area (it facililates your life).

      Let me know where you live & I’d be happy to inquire for you. If you’re living in or near Beirut, I know many (including myself 🙂 ).

      All the best Nat 🙂

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  15. nat
    November 18, 2010 at 4:53 pm

    Sorry for disturbing you today
    Yes I live in Antelias however I will start a job in Beirut from monday to friday
    from 9 to 6.
    I tried to google but didn’t find a good help.
    Thank ou again for your help

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    • dddania
      November 18, 2010 at 4:58 pm

      No disturbance what so ever (on the contrary) 🙂 . I’ll check a colleague for a psychotherapist near Antelias & will let you know. The options are much wider in Beirut if you consider sneeking out during lunch hours, on Saturdays, or after 6 😉 🙂

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    • dddania
      November 18, 2010 at 7:57 pm

      Hi again Nat 😉
      A colleague just recommended Rana Zayek in Antelias area. Her phone is 71110501. I was promised more names to follow 😉
      Will keep you posted 🙂

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    • dddania
      November 19, 2010 at 7:30 pm

      Hi again Nat 🙂 🙂
      Here are some few more contact info for psychotherapists near Antelias area:
      Dr Therese Bou Jaoude: 03 344997 in Adonis & Miss Sabah SALIBA: 03-802219 near Falafel Abou Andre.
      Hope this helps further 🙂 🙂

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  16. Mohie
    February 2, 2011 at 7:26 pm

    I am getting destracted in class any help or numbers of philosophy doctors I live in Beirut.

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    • dddania
      February 2, 2011 at 9:35 pm

      Hi Mohie 🙂

      Getting distracted is many times normal in class (especially if your teacher is not really active, or the material is boring). You could have a lot on your mind (maybe thinking of certain issues to resolve).
      1. What you can do is clarify your thoughts (try writing about things, or make a schedule of things yo need to do). When you write these down, they don’t fight in your head any more 🙂
      2. Pretend that you are really interested in what is being said in class (mainly the lecture) especially if it was boring. Tell yourself: I am going to be tested on this soon (this increases the probability of your focusing attentively).
      3. Train yourself to concentrate better. You can do meditation to enhance this skill. Or, start exercising this mental concentration by focuing on one specific object (like a flower) while thinking of the flower and nothing else (only its shape & how it looks like). Push away any ideas that are not relevant. This is a very difficult exercise to do at first & may require several days until you improve. Persist and you’ll drastically enhance the ability to concentrate.
      5. Search HULK on this website. There’s an article I wrote that could help you focus while studying and you can use the same technique for class focus.

      I didn’t understand what you meant by “numbers of philosophy doctors”? for what specifically? did you mean psychologists or psychotherapists?

      Hope this helps Mohie 🙂

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      • Mohie
        February 20, 2011 at 11:16 pm

        You can do meditation to enhance this skill how could I do this meditaion

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        • dddania
          February 21, 2011 at 6:21 am

          Hi again Mohie 🙂
          Meditation is a process of concentrating inward, focusing on your breathing, and repeating a mantra (a word that has no meaning). May I suggest:
          1. you read more about it through google or get a ook that details how you can do that.
          2. Or join a center that offers such classes. In Hamra, you can go to “Houna” center in Monterial building (after Etoile center). The center ofers regular classes if you’re interested 🙂
          Hope that helps:)

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  17. Mohie
    February 3, 2011 at 10:28 am

    psychologists I ment

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    • dddania
      February 3, 2011 at 3:34 pm

      I am one of these 🙂 I wonder how you found this website?:)
      Why don’t you use google to look for more. You can use the following criteria psychologist/psychotherapist or counselor and Beirut. That would save me the hassle of writing the names of all those I know here (it could become endless, you know).
      Alternatively, you can call me and tell me specifically what you need & I’ll connect you to someone 🙂

      Your welcome 🙂

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  18. Mohie
    February 3, 2011 at 9:05 pm

    If you are one of these so I can go to you so were can I find your number?

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  19. dddania
    February 3, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    It’s on the “Contact Coach 3Ds” page on this website (03 686958) if you’d like to take an appointment )

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  20. Alaa
    September 24, 2011 at 12:19 pm

    Hello Dr.Dbaibo
    I’m a 20 years old girl, from 4 years I met a guy and we fall in love then after one year he say that let us be friends, he loved another girl and then we talked again, were he said let time fix all problem, I fell in his love again ( knowing that even before I stayed loving him ) after 2 months he said that he is broken from his last experience and he is not ready to start a new one again
    the important thing that he never promised me anything but I love him very much , and whenever he said let us brake everything i beg him to stay friends , How can I heal my heart If i cant controle mysefl from senting sms bcuz t think that i may be not loyal for him.
    Thank so much for any help u would offer

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    • dddania
      September 24, 2011 at 6:40 pm

      Dear Alaa,
      From your brief description of the situation, it appears that your guy is in control of your relationship. He decides to continue, break up, or return. It must be hard to play the role of being the “pleaser” and not be reciprocated in ay appreciation. I wonder what you love about him Alaa? Does he have qualities that no other young man has?
      Please keep in mind that there are 6.5 billion people on Earth and that your chances are really high that you meet another man to love. I don’t know what you keep telling yourself, but you will surely remain waiting for his approval if you don’t change the way you view yourself. Can we say that you deserve better treatment? Can we say you deserve someone better? someone who appreciates you more? If you answer “yes” to these questions, then keep telling yourself that all the time. It will help you increase your self-worth and refuse to be as secondary as he is putting you.
      As hard as it is Alaa, everybody survives rejections in the end. Let yourself free of his control and do set him free. If he comes back again, then fine. But allow yourself to make the rules of that relationship that last time 🙂
      Hope that helps 🙂

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  21. Alaa
    September 25, 2011 at 5:19 pm

    Thank you very much , yes it helped me alot.

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    • dddania
      September 25, 2011 at 6:06 pm

      any time sugar 🙂

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  22. Mentalist
    March 8, 2013 at 3:45 am

    Hello Coach 😉

    Here is the question that is always praying on my mind:
    If someone lied at you once in the past, how will you be able to trust him again especially in the field that he lied before? Noting that now he deserves the trust

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    • dddania
      March 8, 2013 at 6:03 am

      Hello Mentalist 🙂 🙂
      Trust is difficult to regain once it’s shaken, but if that other person is trying hard to regain it, I think it’s better to give them a chance. They have reasons to lie (mostly they could be scared to reveal the truth). Your reactions. attitude, and how tot handle it can depend on the situation & the person. Please read this article on lying and deception. Perhaps you can know the answers that describe best your situation;
      https://coachingur3ps.wordpress.com/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-lying-deception-how-to-handle-it/

      Hope that helps 🙂

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  23. Rana
    June 16, 2013 at 10:28 am

    Dear Dania

    Please I want your help on how to deal and how to set boundaries with a deal breaker husband
    (he never keeps the promises he makes).
    I always come last and I don’t matter to him.
    I used to think that I am the problem. He brainwashed me for years ( on being the over sensitive and the over reactive one ) . After years of psychotherapy and psychiatric treatment , I find myself in the same vicious circle. I try my best to detach myself and to be emotionally neutral towards this stupid pattern , but some times I go crazy
    I am sick and tired to handle the same situations over and over again by putting up and shutting up. I feel so powerless over my life after 30 years of an emotional abusive marriage. to make it short, he is an insecure avoidant narcissist , co-dependent, has lack of empathy , he is a people pleaser , he can connect with anybody except me.
    I wish I could leave , but I have been financially dependent on him since i never worked from the beginning of the marriage and it is hard to start from zero at this age.
    One more thing , I read that life is a mirror , how this statement can be true? I hate to believe that! I can’t stop working on myself, I read a lot of self help books ; and psychology is my passion.
    Thx
    Rana

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    • dddania
      June 16, 2013 at 2:41 pm

      Hi Rana 🙂
      Thanks for connecting 🙂 It is a difficult situation, indeed, to be stuck in a marriage you’re unhappy with. I can understand that your attempts to change your husband did not work out well. We’re never able to change others unless they’re ready to take the step to start doing that, unfortunately. The only thing we can change is ourselves & our reactions to these people.

      Apparently, your husband’s behavior and failed promises got to you with time ;( and that’s very hard. I am sure you have tried so many ways to deal with him, but nothing worked out till now. I wished I knew your strategies to suggest more different ones. That would be lengthy to do over here, but perhaps if I point to the characteristics of a narcissist, it would help in discovering how these people “tick”. Narcissists have very low self esteem & the only way through them is attempt to inflate their self esteem as you talk to them (give them compliments & highlight their good qualities). only then can you more safely proceed with your point of view. you’re absolutely right in that this comes with a lot of insecurities, so perhaps try to enhance that as well in your daily living with him.

      Putting up & shutting up leads to bottling up & eventually exploding. How are you releasing your stress Rana?

      Oh, and to help you alleviate the feelings of “stuckness”, having a passion to focus on (besides attending to the family) can help you distract & enhance yourself worth. If you can’t work (although it remains an option no matter how difficult it seems), how can you fill your time to keep you busy from ruminating over his misdemeanors?

      I have compiled so many helpful articles on my other official website. Please check out those related to your presenting issues (mainly effective communication & stress busting) http://www.coachingyour3ps.com

      and for some tips on communicating with difficult people, please check: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OC7rce2OvYw

      Hope this helps 🙂

      Dania

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      • Rana
        June 18, 2013 at 10:46 am

        Thank you Dania. Your advices are highly appreciated. Thank you so much .
        Rana

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        • dddania
          June 19, 2013 at 5:50 am

          It’s a pleasure 🙂 All the best Rana 🙂
          Dania

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  24. June 19, 2013 at 8:27 am

    Hello coach 3Ds,

    There is a question on my mind, here it goes: if someone is hurt for no obvious reason, what can he do to take out this feeling ?

    Thanks 🙂

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    • dddania
      June 19, 2013 at 11:42 am

      It’s really simple 🙂 make the less obvious more obvious 🙂 The feeling will diminish once there’s more clarity around what’s behind it 🙂 Hope that helps 🙂

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