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Time For Your Mind Gym – How Do You Deal With Bad News?


Those bad news we receive…. eh, part of daily living…. Giving you one big blow or small in effect, but coming in bundles from everywhere. And you’re tempted to say: “Dear bad news, would you please slow down? I’m in the middle of something here….” Bad news can get you down, make you disoriented, or even stop you from normal living….

But if you stop in the middle of the road, you’re likely to be run over. It’s better if you planned the “pause” aside to assimilate, to digest, & to deal with those bad news. On the side…. not in the middle of the road…..

It certainly helps to have chunks of time to yourself to think things over, to experience your negative emotions, & to plan ahead what you will do (in light of the bad news). Meanwhile, one way to cope is to resume your normal living. Other people you’re committed to don’t have to pay the price with you & the whole worls doesn’t have to know – just a selected few.

In doing that, it’s a good idea to adopt the motto of “In the middle of my many obligations, I can’t depress about sad things any time. I’ll assign the right time for that at my earliest convenience.” ~ 3Ds

Then test yourself, challenge yourself, & stretch yourself to do what you think is impossible under your current state, or circumstance. There’s always time to sit on your own & resolve that “unfinished business”. MAKE the time for it if you need.

Only then, will you realize your true strength. Only then, will you realize your true potentials. Only then, will you be even more proud.

There’s a “mask” I call “alright pretense”. This is the time to wear it until you’re in solitude….

So go on …. smile to the world… In your privacy aside, you can face those bad news with no mask; & even give them a spank!!

Sob, or weep. Turn the page, & start over another day (with a smile)…. Then allow for those chunks of time as much as you need… On the side that is…

Need a tissue before I leave?

Your Personal Coach



Your “Mind Gym” – How Are The News Like?


If you’re the type who constantly follows up on TV News, then you’re the type who’s constantly showered with doses of negativity. By the time you’ve had enough, you can expect to hear about few good news of “wins” here or there.

Same thing happens if you read the newspaper. Negativity…Negativity… Negativity…. And then finally some good news (perhaps in the sports page). And again by the time you’re there, the good News are barely noticed.

Global News eventually have their impact on your own, don’t they? Perhaps I am one among many who stopped attending closely to that barrage of negativity. I’d like to pay attention to those News within my reach – the closest of which are my own. Feels familiar?

So many times, our own bad news witness their own barrage as if their flood gates sprung wide open. And we stop paying attention to the good news here or there (just like those global news we get from TV & the Newspaper).

And so often, we receive bad news just when we are rejoicing good ones. Then you “wonder why good news are frequently off-set by bad news shortly after. Think again… it could simply be working the other way round.” ~3Ds

It seems that we get programmed to focus on the bad news. These attract our attention more than the good ones; and we grow to give these more time & more energy (just like the TV & the Newspaper). And then, no energy is left to appreciate the good ones. But what if we focus instead that good news are coming after the bad ones? Does that trigger an “A-HA” moment?

Here’s some BREAKING NEWS then: it’s all like a game of hide & seek. Good News are here & there…. hiding everywhere…. They’re all within your reach…. Of course, you still have to reach 😉

Let’s make that our new default setting…. Capiche?

Your Personal Coach


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