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Time For Your Mind Gym – Who’s Your Best connection?


You probably have too many connections, but there are mainly a few you bond really well with & can’t tolerate living without. You’re more attracted to them because they’re harmonious with your core thoughts & values in & out. With these special connections you’re more inclined to hang out; You share your stories & concerns; & with them, your dreams are more likely to come about.

These special connection, with time, strengthen & become your preference. In your circle of friends, other people become located farther away & more remote as a reference. Let’s be real, those closer connections are more prone to make a positive difference. They understand you without your uttering any word or sentence.

Right in the middle of these few, there’s YOU. The shortest distance from any other connection – anywhere in view. The easiest to reach; The best there is to teach; The only person, for sure, you’re forever glued to. Among all other connections, YOU’re the one you’re closest to; Perhaps the only one available, sometimes, to turn to.

I say this because so many times, even those closest to your heart will be so busy, at many points, with their own lives. You reach out & no one arrives. And when you’re all alone & do feel lonely, you’ve got to have a mechanism to survive. Being left on your own to deal with your demons could scare like hell anyone alive.

“One of life’s blessings is having close connections. The best to select & nourish always is our own inner reflection.” ~ 3Ds

It’s true others can encourage & validate your perceptions; yet, the sources of truth are found through your own introspections.

Seize those moments of solitude, always, to gravitate within, befriend that miracle inside, & understand your complexion.

As you do that, allow that center to be filled with magnet-like affection. Then you can radiate back to that closest selection.

In your inner circle (I hope) of closest connections,

I remain,

Your Personal Coach (planting insights & direction)


PS. I’ll be the guest speaker in the relationships & expectations seminar “Adam & Leave” with Dr. Hady Safa on March 13 at 6:30pm in Babel Theater Hamra. You can know more details & how to book your seat here:


Time For Your “Mind Gym” – What’s Your Point Of Reference?


Ever thought how often you compared? This to that? You to him or her? Now to then? Here to there? & many more….. Perhaps we need to do that to evaluate, to understand, to take action, to judge, or maybe to just have something to talk about.

Comparison can create contradictory feelings: jealousy vs. admiration; Misery vs. content; Shame vs. confidence; Feeling bad vs. feeling good….. It all depends on what you’re comparing with & your intention.

We all need a “point of reference” to measure our stance. Bigger gaps (not in our favor) result in sadder states especially if we think nothing can shorten the distance between that “point of reference” & where we stand (& I doubt the “nothing” here).

Consider, now, comparing yourself to those who are worse off than you are. I bet that leaves you feeling good. Keep your eyes on those ranking much higher above you, & your neck will ache with time. You’re better off looking at these as merely the “inspiring heroes” I talked about last time.

Let’s go deeper: what’s your intention as you do those comparisons? Do you attempt to level off disruptions, or bring yourself closer to that ideal reference? hmmm… now that would make a difference & certainly tips the scale towards more positive feelings…

And you know what? whatever you do…. whoever you compare yourself with…. “When you consider your ‘old self’ the ‘point of reference’ to compare your ‘present self’ with, this when you truly do yourself justice.” ~3Ds

Is the comparison, then, in your favor? Let me hear a “Yes”, please!

Never mind if you whisper “No”…. I can always hear that followed by: “but I’m working on it!” you could’ve fooled me, sunshine! 🙂

Oh, & did you locate that “future self” you’re creating? How far are you from there?

I’m taking a course in architecture. Measuring distances all the time. Care to join?

Your Personal Coach & assistant designer


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