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Time For Your “Mind Gym” – How Do You Compensate?


If you review the times you wanted something, but didn’t get, you may notice that you tried to, somehow, compensate. Consider, for instance, a failed relationship, a desired post on a job, or in vain attempts on any other pursuit. You looked for a substitute to help cope you tolerate.

The way we compensate, though, can serve us well, or not, if I may say. Some would sublimate to a higher cause, change their target, or figure out a new way. Others would resort to substance abuse, binge in comfort eating, or soothe their frustrated emotions by seeking solitude in a somewhat safe bay.

Have you considered how, earlier, you resorted to compensate? Do you find a pattern that would generally predominate? Or is it that when you scan those incidents well, you find that your style is flexible and between different constructive ways you oscillate?

Have you noticed, at times, how the clock continues ticking or flipping despite your attempts to digest your dashing hopes? Remaining in idle mode won’t change the bad news, and eventually you have to step into the uncertain and navigate new slopes as a better means to cope.

“The question isn’t how do you compensate if you fail; rather how “well” will you compensate? What will you eventually allow to prevail?” ~ 3Ds

It’s like you’re meant to be waging battles all the time; and even initiating new ones. A survivor mode entails that you seriously keep sticking to your guns….

Neve dwell on whether you’ll be defeated. when you’re tired, you can always a rest, just for a little while, then resume whatever you have uncompleted….

And you know what will make a difference next time? It’s pretending that you’re already a champion from the start…. Role play every day the “as if you’re already a winner” kind of part…

Every breath, every move, every step,…. Have a fighter un-subsiding kind of heart….

To compensate right, make the new worthy venture a state of art….

Doesn’t this sounds like a class of Martial Art?

Bowing in awe before your new glorious start, your Personal Coach


  1. June 11, 2014 at 5:07 pm

    You are always so clever, but with great messages. Being forced to examine my compensatory techniques over time, I would have to say (with pleasure) that my youthful compensation was far less healthy than what I tend to do as a mature person. I hadn’t really given it a lot of thought but now that you have made me do that, I like what I see about my own growth and ability to be a survivor and to forge ahead, shifting, adjusting and finding new ways, not blaming myself unnecessarily, as I used to, etc.


    • June 12, 2014 at 5:43 am

      Your comments always make my heart expaaaaand Iris 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to give your input always 🙂 Yes, I too feel that i’m maturing about better the ways I compensate. I guess experience guides us better as we grow 🙂 🙂 the upside of getting older 🙂 🙂


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