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Time For Your “Mind Gym” – What’s Your Best Disguise?


“Remove that mask you’re wearing gently & let me explore your real face for a while!!” That would be a scary statement that could freak anyone out (especially if there were no mask to start with). Many would rather remain disguised; & removing the mask may be a horrendous task. It’s too much to ask….

Let’s be frank: don’t we all, from time to time, wear a mask to hide our true state, to save face, to be accepted, or be embraced? But you’d probably hate it when you suspect the pretense some people assume. And when you discover what they’re hiding, you’re set into rage & fume.

You wouldn’t easily forgive their making you feel like a fool & mistake your kind-heart with someone who drools. “Caution” becomes your new rule; & vigilance with suspected multi-faced people becomes your new tool. You learn, the hard way, what you never did in school…

With repeated unwelcome experiences, you become talented at reading people well & that could be both a curse & a blessing. Discovering others’ malicious intentions, lo and behold, can be all too distressing; & when frequent enough, it renders you all too paranoid & fussing…

We justify our own disguise & condemn it when we detect it in others. Truth is, such self-serving acts are adaptive forms that can bring one both: haters & lovers. And once you learn to dig for the “good” in the “bad”, any precipitating hurt inflicted by others slowly recovers…

Everyone has good reasons to slip into a disguise. At least, the “good” is what rests before their eyes; not what you prefer or prize. Love or hate, eventually, will rule what you hold for any relationship as it matures & as you become all too wise.

In the end, “Of all the lies I hear, of the entire disguise I see, I find those reflecting one’s life being trouble-free most appealing.” ~ 3Ds

 It’s a sign of strength never to reflect your problems on those you meet; & that nasty disguise of those who cheat reflects that they’re only weak … so to speak… Which mask do you wear each week?

Kind moves Move Mountains … so do kind thoughts & intentions…

Now push…. in the right direction….

With multifaceted Love,

Your Personal Coach


  1. April 16, 2014 at 3:49 pm

    I try hard to leave my masks in the closet and not to don them in public, at least consciously, anyway. An intriguing post, Dania. It’s an interesting thought, though, that we do indeed tend to judge others for their masks and to justify our own.

    I try hard to be who I am as much as I can. Sometimes it hurts me/us to let that guard down, but in the end, we feel better about ourselves if we don’t pretend to be other than who we really are. If I put on any masks, I try to do it in private, when I can stand before the mirror and practice new ways of being and doing. When we practice enough, these new faces and aspects of our personalities become part of who we actually are, so we can wear them out in public and are not pretending at all. So yes, when I want that “trouble-free” mask, no matter how life has me tied up in knots and in worry, I have to keep on practicing that one.

    You are always wise and inspiring, as well as enjoyable to read. That is no mask!


    • April 16, 2014 at 7:11 pm

      Maaany thanks for taking the time to read my post again Iris 😉 I always love your input 🙂 you’re absolutely right about wearing masks to practice, perhaps, what we want to become.
      And to leave mask free completey would be a blessing and ultimatum to reach. Very few of us would be able to attain I guess 🙂

      Gazillion thaaanks for your acknowledgement Iris 😉 I have no doubt about your truthfulness 🙂 I looove youuu 🙂 🙂


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