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Time For Your Mind Gym – How Do You Deal With Bad News?


Those bad news we receive…. eh, part of daily living…. Giving you one big blow or small in effect, but coming in bundles from everywhere. And you’re tempted to say: “Dear bad news, would you please slow down? I’m in the middle of something here….” Bad news can get you down, make you disoriented, or even stop you from normal living….

But if you stop in the middle of the road, you’re likely to be run over. It’s better if you planned the “pause” aside to assimilate, to digest, & to deal with those bad news. On the side…. not in the middle of the road…..

It certainly helps to have chunks of time to yourself to think things over, to experience your negative emotions, & to plan ahead what you will do (in light of the bad news). Meanwhile, one way to cope is to resume your normal living. Other people you’re committed to don’t have to pay the price with you & the whole worls doesn’t have to know – just a selected few.

In doing that, it’s a good idea to adopt the motto of “In the middle of my many obligations, I can’t depress about sad things any time. I’ll assign the right time for that at my earliest convenience.” ~ 3Ds

Then test yourself, challenge yourself, & stretch yourself to do what you think is impossible under your current state, or circumstance. There’s always time to sit on your own & resolve that “unfinished business”. MAKE the time for it if you need.

Only then, will you realize your true strength. Only then, will you realize your true potentials. Only then, will you be even more proud.

There’s a “mask” I call “alright pretense”. This is the time to wear it until you’re in solitude….

So go on …. smile to the world… In your privacy aside, you can face those bad news with no mask; & even give them a spank!!

Sob, or weep. Turn the page, & start over another day (with a smile)…. Then allow for those chunks of time as much as you need… On the side that is…

Need a tissue before I leave?

Your Personal Coach


  1. September 29, 2013 at 3:59 pm

    Ah..I do need a tissue, frequently and as you indicate, sometimes have to schedule the time to let it all hang out, to be in solitude and to allow the feelings to come pouring out. We do need to function out there in the world, no matter what is going on. Yet, we need to take care of ourselves by giving it a chance to emerge so that we don’t get sick from pushing back out feelings all the time. You have such a lovely way of expressing these things..so natural and as though you are talking to each of us. What I marvel at, too, is how you do that when English is not your native tongue! I am always impressed.


    • September 29, 2013 at 7:52 pm

      Many thaaanks Iris for your encouraging words always 🙂 I’m sure you had to deal with facing bad news repeatedly. I’ve just lost my father few days ago, & this post was one of the ways I’m coping with that loss. I did push myself to resume so many professional obligations even when I haven’t fully grasped the idea yet. it’s going well, but I have to admit, it needs a lot of energy to do that 😦
      Thanks again Iris 🙂


  2. Hanadi
    July 19, 2016 at 8:10 pm

    This is what i was looking for to read today. Great compilation.


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