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Time for Your Mind Gym – How is it Like in Your Relationship?


Pick any important relationship in your life & assess. How’s it like? It could be rocky, or smooth; filled with turmoil, flat-lining, or flaming with joy.

What do you think makes a difference? If you think hard about it, you’ll find that the “smooth” & “flowing with joy” relationships have agreements on core life values you share with the other.

If it’s your partner, friend, colleague, parent, sibling, or kid, you’re assessing your relationship with, you’ll realize that the more you’re like each other, the more you like each other.

Still, no two people are alike. And if you focus on your differences, you, surely, head that “rocky” road describing how your relationship is like. Rings a bell in any case?

If you really want to hold on to having them in your life, what are you to do if you were to smoothen the path both of you walk?

Examine the whole package. Acknowledge & accept the differences. Focus on your similarities & bring these to spotlight in your interactions.

“The proper cement building all relationships, is loudly appreciating the commonalities more than drawing attention to the differences.” ~3Ds

It’s been said that thriving relationships have a ratio of 5 positive interactions to each negative one, usually.

Perhaps it’s re-engineering time of how it’s like. Think hard. They have abundant material you can use as cement.

Start mixing: a trait here, a behavior there,  dash of love, & sprinkle all with understanding.

Happy “building”….

Happily ever after  🙂

Your Personal Coach


  1. July 30, 2013 at 2:56 am

    What a good slant on relationships! I didn’t know that about 5 positive interactions to each one negative one and will pay attention to that. It’s mostly a rocky road with one of my kids, frankly. I will work on counting the good interactions and seek to increase them. That’s a helpful and concrete goal and it was you who gave me the awareness of using this as a tool. .I also really love that little wisdom of “the more you like each other, the more you like each other” Brilliant and yet so simple when you think about it.


    • July 30, 2013 at 11:37 pm

      YaaaY 🙂 glad this post added something to your usual routines 🙂 yes, sometimes it slips our mind to compliment even the smallest acts 😉 but these are really powerful in enhancing our relationships to our loved ones 🙂
      and from what i know about you, you always manage to brighten up my daaay Iris 😉
      thanks for always being there 🙂
      Kisses 🙂


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