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People Are Like Coins


During my training as a Neuro-Linguistic Programming practitioner, I was asked with my peers to think of some metaphors to share. Metaphors are stories – imagined or real – that carry implicit meaning and may carry several embedded messages. They are powerful in transforming how people think. Metaphors provoke a specific emotion and may be interpreted in different ways depending on what’s going on in the listener’s life at the time. Milton Erikson, a pioneer in hypnosis, made extensive use of metaphors with his clients and the results were always amazing. That is because metaphors work at both the conscious and the unconscious levels. Consciously, one would come up with a somewhat clear conclusion. The unconscious mind, on the other hand, loves to work out symbols. There’s new meaning derived inadvertently; and this creates a new behavioral change driver.

  I pondered about the message I wanted to instill for that specific exercise. Then, I thought that I might as well relay my life philosophy about the essence of human nature. That’s a perspective many may disagree with, but that’s the purpose of metaphors after all: to make a shift in thinking. You see, I always thought that people are like monetary coins. They are produced in different shapes, sizes, and colors. Coins always have two faces and carry different themes, pictures, and designs. When they are first put into circulation, they are marvelously shiny and new. Some coins rotate within confined territories; others travel long distances. And still others remain locked behind closed doors. Coins belong to one country or another. They all have worth and that can be relevant to those who hold them. They are there to serve or be used in varying degrees. With time, many eventually become really dirty, tainted, lose their shine, or merely damaged. The writings or design on some coins may slightly fade. It all depends on how these coins spent their life time. It all depends on whether they are in the right hands or not.

 That’s all too common knowledge you might think, so what’s new? The most interesting aspect about coins, I find, is their true core. The idea dawned on me some time ago when I was handed a rusted coin. I could barely make sense of the writing or design on it. Curious as always, I wanted to discover what’s behind the rust. What signs does that coin carry? To find out, I thought I might as well polish it, so I did. It was challenging to unleash what’s behind the accumulated corrosion. It took me a lot of time and effort. I knew that behind the rust, I’ll find an attractive design. I knew if I worked hard enough, I could make it shine again. And I did restore that shine; and I did reach to its spectacular core. There it was: the fundamental nature of that coin can be restored if we just remove the surface rust. Coins are beautiful at heart.

 We can do a lot to remedy the mishandlings of coins in circulation. Some are easier than others. It would be really exigent to restore damaged, dented, or faded coins. These require more drastic interventions and more people to help out, but it certainly is doable to repair any mishap. Now, I am in the coin-polishing business, but I use all sorts of techniques and skills to refine my practice. So go on….. Give me more coins to handle. Let me restore their shine……

 P.S. Let your mind wonder some more on this one (there are many implicit messages there)…..

 

  1. September 29, 2010 at 11:16 am

    Wonderful metaphor Dania! It actually provoked a lot of thoughts as I read it which I hope you don’t mind me keeping to myself. I wouldn’t want to impose my thoughts on your readers and would rather let them draw their own conclusions. After all that’s what metaphors are for 🙂

    Excellent work!

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    • dddania
      September 29, 2010 at 5:31 pm

      Geeeee thanks Tarek 🙂 Coming from you, that’s an acknowledgement I will always cherish my Master NLP idol 🙂 🙂 🙂
      Thanks for being a reader 🙂 My Blog felt lonely for a while 🙂 🙂

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  2. rania
    September 29, 2010 at 11:42 am

    I love it , it drew a smile on my face . So true to compare people tp coins and sooo true that u can work on rusty ones to make them shine.Still I have a feeling that some are too damaged to repair , but this is in exceptional cases depending on what harsh enviroments these coins suffered . Would love to give u my case , not too damaged but need some polishing 🙂 Love u , keep us proud, ur great .

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    • dddania
      September 29, 2010 at 5:28 pm

      OOOUUUU Ranoooo 🙂 🙂 thanks habeeebtiiiii 🙂
      It’s true some coins are severly damaged, but let’s have faith in that all can be restored 🙂
      And you….. you definitely fit in the “forever shining” coins criterion 🙂 No rust can accumulate on your “surface” 🙂 🙂

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  3. September 29, 2010 at 1:46 pm

    Thanks for this post. I enjoyed this metaphor and find it to be very true. I am passing it on a dear friend who is not only a student of human nature, but a professional numismatist and who will enjoy and find value in this. In fact, I feel many others will too so am going to link to it and pass it on to others.

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    • dddania
      September 29, 2010 at 5:24 pm

      Geeee 🙂 🙂 I am glad you like it Iris and thanks for passig it around 🙂
      You just made my day 😉 It means a lot to me 🙂 🙂

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  4. September 29, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    Just want to add a little note, though. To those of you who have old coins or those you think just might be valuable, please don’t go cleaning off the rust or patina of the coin as you will diminish the value. Dania, your message is great and I don’t mean to diminish it, but from a numismatic point of view, just don’t want anyone to end up throwing a fortune away! LOL.

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    • dddania
      September 29, 2010 at 5:22 pm

      I definitely didn’t missunderstand 🙂 🙂
      Thanks for the tip 🙂 🙂 After all, this was only a metaphor 🙂 🙂

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      • September 29, 2010 at 6:08 pm

        I know!! Great one too. I just didn’t want somebody to spoil a potential windfall that might come their way. LOL!

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  5. September 29, 2010 at 8:12 pm

    I was awaaay, ended up having a lovely time reading my missed posts :), thanks for the loveely metaphor, and for the tip about how they work on the subconscious, I was reading a good book in this break (forty rules of love by Elaf Shafak) and it involved lots of Sufi metaphors which the author relayed by her main character, which made me wonder as to its significane, u just answered to my wondering :* kisses!

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    • dddania
      September 30, 2010 at 6:22 am

      Rubyyyyyy 🙂 🙂 I was wondering were you were???? 🙂 🙂 The book you’re reading seems interesting (I put it on my list of “books to hunt”) 🙂
      glad you liked that metaphor 🙂 🙂
      Thanks for your continuous support habeeebiiii 🙂 🙂
      love yah!!

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  6. October 14, 2010 at 11:23 pm

    Your writing is simply wonderful*!* I would have never thought of coins/people as the same/similar; but your fabulous metaphor has done just that. Beyond the basic comparisons, right down to the soul. As a Published Poet, I recognize a fellow poet when I read one, and you, my dear, are most definitely a POET; whether you know this yet, or not*!* The art is within you, I urge you to explore it. I may, probably, be making a huge fool of myself, as this is the first I’ve heard of you, and the only writing I’ve seen. So take from all this, one big compliment, you are one heck of a writers crafting the best of words, thus causing us all to see things in a different light*!* GOD BLESS, GOOD LUCK & HAPPY LANDINGS, REBECCA from TUCSON, AZ

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    • dddania
      October 15, 2010 at 3:07 am

      Dear Rebecca,
      you have no idea what your comment means to me 🙂 I really am honored and flattered to read your feedback 🙂
      WOW!!! a published poet assessing my writing as such ;( I am passionate about writing (and have earlier posted a poem) and to receive such an a acknowledgement from you makes me more confident to pursue my dream of having my writings published in a book (in time). It’s one of those projects I slowly am working on 🙂
      Many many thanks for taking the tiime to read the post and write this comment 🙂
      You just made my day 🙂

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  7. Mentalist
    March 8, 2013 at 10:33 pm

    That is intellegient!! Im still amazed by this metaphore! It made my mind to flood with thoughts 🙂
    Thanks for your insightful thoughts 🙂

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    • dddania
      March 9, 2013 at 6:47 am

      Pleasure is all mine to have triggered the “rush” of contemplation 🙂 I appreciate your “cheer-leading” always habeebee 🙂 🙂
      aaaaand goood morning 🙂 🙂

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