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“Digging Deep Within”: Too Scared to Look Inside?

Well, another academic semester has unfolded; and I can’t but reflect on my students who enrolled for the introduction to psychology course. For the past four months, we have examined the thinking processes and the motivating roots for human behavior. I am wondering how many students are now more invested in self-discovery and regulation? I planted seeds beyond course material and nourished these from time to time. Many resisted and their reactions ranged from having flat expressions on their faces to openly being sarcastic about my daring “calls”. Things seemed just too airy-fairy for their understanding. Others were more welcoming and those really motivated me to keep trying. I can’t know how many were responsive for sure, but I’m happy with just a few. Generally speaking, people differ in their willingness to “dig deep” and become more self-aware. And that is even more customary among the younger generation.

 I must admit that it IS scary to look deep inside especially if the image is wishy-washy. But those who have the guts may alarm others as too freaky. That’s why sometimes the stereotypical image of a psychologist is that of a creepy mind-reader. They’re in their “mind-gym” all the time. The more we carve out understanding about ourselves, the more we find to deal with. UUUUUFFFFF, why open a can of worms? But HEY! The good news is that we need to rock the boat sometimes before moving forward. How do you think we’ll know where to go if we weren’t clear about where we stand? Undeniably, the most important date you may ever have in your life is that with your own self. Get to know it better. You’ll find that your life is transformed when you can clearly discern your values, your strengths, and your weaknesses. Self-awareness equips you with confidence, with means to dissolve your fears and transcend your distress, and empowers you to create your own destiny; not be the subject to external maneuverings into haphazard directions. You don’t have to do it all alone. It’s more helpful and fun to affiliate with like-minded others. They are great company and can be a major source of validation. When you touch base and are crystal clear, keep on polishing. Maintenance is usually easier than the kick off process. So, keep on digging; don’t be scared to look deep inside. Eventually, the worms will all be out.


  1. Rain
    February 9, 2010 at 4:07 pm

    That is quite scary, I try not to do so, so I won’t have to face my own demons… a part of me is curious and wants to know, but another part of me is scared that I won’t handle the truth.
    But it is the only way to heal, and to progress and to become a better person.
    You can’t change the world, or reach the top, if you don’t discover yourself.
    But what if discovering yourself leads us to destruction?
    What if I am not capable of dealing with my fears, and reasons behind my fears?


    • dddania
      February 10, 2010 at 4:48 am

      And what would happen if you found out you CAN handle your fears Rein? Why assume as of now that you can’t or that it would lead to destruction? The only way to overcome a fear is by facing it Rein. In most cases, what we fear is only a creation of our mind. Feed your mind with good “stuff” habeeebi. Do you realize what a wonderful young lady you are? That’s the truth I perceive about you 🙂 (from what you write, from the little I know about you :)) We all have shortcomings, but so what? We have a lot of assets that make us very special too. Don’t be scared to “dig” Rein. Go with the part of you that believes in you 🙂 She seems to be great company 🙂


  2. cave
    January 7, 2011 at 6:57 pm

    I can digg deep and find lots of information about me. I find it hard to make sense of it and significance of it in present and future moments. So soon after discovering my fears and uncomfortable part of me, i forget them. Do you have any idea?


    • dddania
      January 8, 2011 at 9:46 am

      That’s just getting self-knowledge. You ay think that you’ve forgotten about your discoveries, but the truth is, this knowledge is shaping your behaviour at a subconscious level 🙂 🙂 Relax, it is a loooong way before anyone of us knows it all 🙂 🙂 but you’re on the right track of seld-development 🙂


      • cave
        January 9, 2011 at 6:37 pm

        thanks for validation. when i get up in the morning i find it hard to remember anything or find words to describe myself and the world. I feel i have to start all over again, from the beginning.
        Does I make any sense to you. If I do, can you mention any songs or movies(any kind of narrative) which potrays this emotional situation (anxiety, fear)?


        • dddania
          January 9, 2011 at 7:03 pm

          I wished I knew what you meant 😦 😦 but I guess you’re in the middle of no-where now. But the good news is, you’ll find yourself pretty soon now that you’ve started the journey of self-discovery 🙂 It will come; don’t rush it. Just keep reading & reading & reading stuff about personal development. You never know how that “light bulb” suddenly turns on 🙂 🙂

          PS and I don’t think that’s anxiety or fear; merely an inability to be clear about things now 🙂


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